{"id":6523,"date":"2018-07-23T05:00:00","date_gmt":"2018-07-23T09:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.zolo.ca\/news\/?p=6523"},"modified":"2022-07-01T13:04:33","modified_gmt":"2022-07-01T17:04:33","slug":"adult-child-moves-back-home","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zolo.ca\/blog\/adult-child-moves-back-home","title":{"rendered":"6 Steps to Take When Your Adult Child Moves Back Home"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>A record number \u2014 as much as one-third of young adults \u2014 are choosing to live with their parents instead of on their own. It can be hard for millennials to pay rent and save for a down payment on a home, especially in Canada\u2019s biggest cities. That\u2019s why many choose to move in with Mom and Dad as a more affordable option and why parents may need to manage expectations when an adult child moves back home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For parents, adult children moving back in can be a blessing or a burden, sometimes both. We look at the adjustments that both parties need to make to ensure the arrangement works.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"step-1.-set-expectations\">Step 1. Set Expectations<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.zolo.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/Fist-bump-achieving-goals-adulting-home-buying-guide-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"fist-bump-effective-real-estate-agents\" class=\"wp-image-5136\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>The ultimate goal of any parent is for his or her child to build an independent, successful life outside of the family home. However, with the cost of living, especially in Canada\u2019s biggest cities, millennials can find it difficult to pay rent and save for a down payment on a house \u2014 especially if they\u2019re just starting out in their career. Living with their parents can be a mutually beneficial money-saving option for both parents and adult children, alike.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But before your 20 or 30something adult child moves back home, it\u2019s important to have a discussion about what both parties expect. You don\u2019t want to come across as an ogre, but neither do you want to be taken for granted either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"step-2.-charge-rent\">Step 2. Charge Rent<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.zolo.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Couple-calculating-costs-using-data-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"Couple calculating costs using data\" class=\"wp-image-6283\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>One of the hardest subjects to broach when setting ground <a href=\"https:\/\/www.zolo.ca\/blog\/responsibilities-as-a-renter\">rules is what rent to charge<\/a>. Establishing clear boundaries from the start is important. If they want to be seen as adults and not children, then make sure that they know that paying rent is part of the deal well before moving day. This will give them time to adjust their budget and work out how much money they can save, as well as sorting out insurance (if they\u2019re not covered under your policy) and other expenses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"step-3.-discuss-house-rules\">Step 3. Discuss House Rules<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.zolo.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/nerd-cave-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"nerd cave\" class=\"wp-image-4287\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Setting house rules may seem petty, but when your child is playing noisy video games late at night, then you may wish you had.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Consider discussing rules for the following:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Housework.&nbsp;<\/strong>Having an extra person in the house means extra cleaning of common areas, and it\u2019s only fair they do their share. Would it work to create a cleaning roster? Is it better if everyone chips in for a cleaner once a week? Let them know that they need to clean their own living space and do their own laundry.<\/li><li><strong>Noise.<\/strong> If you have a large house, this doesn\u2019t apply but, in a smaller home, each party\u2019s noise may intrude into the peace and quiet of the other. Discuss what decibel level is suitable or find ways to lessen it like using headphones for listening to music.<\/li><li><strong>Socializing.<\/strong> You don\u2019t want your children to be hermits but you may not want their friends traipsing in and out of your home at all hours either. Discuss what\u2019s appropriate in terms of having friends over, as well as drinking and smoking.<\/li><li><strong>Relationships.<\/strong> It may not be just your children that move back in \u2014 they may have long-term partners who stay over frequently (and eat breakfast at your place for half the week). Let your children know what you\u2019re ok with and what you\u2019re not.<\/li><li><strong>Buying food.<\/strong> Will their rent money pay for their share of the food or will they pay for this separately? Will they have their own food cupboard or will it be a communal arrangement?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"step-4.-discuss-your-schedules\">Step 4. Discuss Your Schedules<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"684\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.zolo.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/Calendar-timeline-trip-planning-1024x684.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-6427\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.zolo.ca\/blog\/cost-to-raise-a-child\">Your children<\/a> may have established routines that don\u2019t vary&nbsp;all that much or they may keep irregular hours. Either way, if you know each other\u2019s schedules in advance, you\u2019ll know what to expect. Of course, they may have their own self-contained living space in your house, which makes things a lot easier. But if you\u2019re all sharing a bathroom, knowing who needs to use the shower at 6 a.m. can avoid arguments.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"step-5.-set-a-time-limit\">Step 5. Set a Time Limit<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignnone wp-image-3431 size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"960\" height=\"640\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.zolo.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/alarm-clock-time.jpg\" alt=\"alarm clock time\" class=\"wp-image-3431\"\/><figcaption>Pixabay<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Make it clear from the start that this is a temporary arrangement. If your children have a specific goal, e.g. to save for a down payment on a house, then discuss what the finish date is likely to be. It\u2019s important to establish a time limit because, if you don\u2019t, they can get settled, and put down roots.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For some parents, having their kids around is great because everyone gets along well, but for others, it can feel like the parenting never ends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"step-6.-this-is-still-your-house\">Step 6. This Is Still Your House<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.zolo.ca\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Crosswalk-rules-regulations-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"Lock in your mortgage rates before tougher regulations hit\" class=\"wp-image-3417\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>You may have been enjoying your retirement or being an empty nester, so an adult child returning home can be difficult to adjust to. Remember that you\u2019re doing them a favour, not the other way around. If they don\u2019t like your ground rules, they\u2019re more than welcome to move out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In general, there\u2019s no reason why an adult child moving back in can\u2019t work as long as everyone respects one another and treats each other as adults.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Instead of an empty nest do you have a full house? Living with adult children can have its benefits but you need to set some ground rules, first. 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